Hello October + Life Lately

My last post was in October 2022, so naturally, my newest post is one year later, in October 2023. What can I say? I’m nothing if not consistently inconsistent.

It feels really good to be sitting down and writing a new post. I’ve gone through many changes in the past year, both good and bad. This year, in particular, I’ve been really struggling with just feeling like myself again. I’m trying to get back into a routine and have just been itching to create content again. So I thought we could catch up today, say hello, and see how everyone is doing, and I guess we’ll take it from there.

Life Lately October 2023 by Basically A Mess (photo of a girl wearing a pink Abercrombie & Fitch Emerson Dress by a taxi cab)

I moved to NYC…

It’s been one year since I moved into my dream apartment and officially became a New Yorker. As someone who grew up commuting into NYC from Jersey City every day for school and work, I still can’t believe I get to live in my dream city.

Before moving in, we put a ton of money into the place, and Eddie did an incredible job with the renovations. From painting all the walls to putting in new floors and installing my dream closet, my apartment is everything I could have wanted and more, and I feel so incredibly blessed to call it home.

I’m within walking distance from Chinatown, Nolita, Soho, and the East Village, which is a dream but also not great for my wallet. When I lived in New Jersey, I hated dealing with the weekend train, so I never wanted to go out, but in the city, I’m out and about almost every day. I’ll definitely share more details in an upcoming blog post, so please let me know if you have any questions!

Life Lately October 2023 by Basically A Mess (photo of a girl wearing a pink Zara Dress)

I got my first-ever promotion…

If you’ve been following me for a while, then you know all about the highs and lows of my career journey. In 2020, I hit a really low point when I was laid off, and it took me quite some time to bounce back. But, in August 2021, I landed a Marketing Assistant role at Wacoal and b.tempt’d. Was I disappointed that I was restarting my career again in another assistant position? Yes, but I was excited to be working finally and ready to work my way up. And boy, did that happen quickly!

By November, I was unofficially managing the social media accounts for both brands. It came as a surprise, and honestly, it was a really stressful time because I didn’t know what I was doing and was learning as I went. I had this mindset of, well, I can sit here and wait for someone to hold my hand, or I can just take the lead, do it, and learn from my mistakes.

And by May of 2022, I was promoted to Social Media Coordinator. As someone who has always given 100% but has always been passed up for a promotion because “it was never the right time” or because “there is no budget,” this promotion really meant the world to me.

Like everything else, I have good and bad days at work, but I’m really passionate about what I do. I get to be creative by planning the entire organic social calendar for both brands from start to finish. I ideate, create, and edit content for our social channels. And my favorite thing is I manage our influencer marketing by building campaigns, casting influencers, and everything else that goes into it. I’ve learned so much and been given opportunities I never thought I would have, like going to the Dominican Republic and hosting an influencer trip. It’s been an incredible experience, and I’m excited to continue growing with the brand.

Life Lately October 2023 by Basically A Mess (photo of a girl and a chihuahua)

I said goodbye to my best friend…

The most impactful life change I went through this year was losing my sweet chihuahua of eleven years, Kenny. I can’t put into words how much Kenny meant to me. He was my sweet baby boy who had been with me through many ups and downs.

When I worked at Cosmo magazine and was depressed all the time, the highlight of my week was Friday when I would see him again, and we would spend the whole weekend napping, eating, and cuddling. When I lost my job in 2020, having him by my side helped me keep going. I would always hold him and tell him, “Don’t ever leave me, okay?”

In April 2022, we took Kenny to the emergency vet, where he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. We weren’t sure he would make it, but my sweet boy pulled through. Suddenly, we were adapting to a new normal where he had monthly vet appointments and was on three different medications twice a day. But Kenny is such a little fighter, and he pulled through, and test after test kept coming back with good news. Earlier this year, we noticed a lump in his throat, and after his routine visits, he was diagnosed with cancer. It all happened very quickly, and by April of this year, we said goodbye to our sweet boy.

If you’re not an animal lover, I’m sure I sound crazy, but Kenny was just my person. He was my little soulmate. As an only child who has always felt lonely, my sweet boy made me feel a little less alone. As someone who has always felt hard to love, he loved me unconditionally.

Making the decision to say goodbye to him was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Even now, working from home is a little harder because I feel so lonely like a part of me is missing. It’s been challenging navigating this new normal. I’ve cried more times this year than I’ve smiled, and it’s a constant battle to feel like myself each day. But he’s not suffering anymore, and I had eleven incredible years with him, and for that, I am grateful.


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